Knowing the rules.

Knowing the rules

When you are in someone else’s space (be it work, relationship or otherwise), it is said that you must play by their rules; really? Now, say it’s about work, and you don’t like the environment or the boss that run the environment. What are your options? You can always quit and keep your pride or you can knuckle under and accept what’s given to you. Either way, there is some maneuvering to look forward to.

What about relationships? You’re with someone who has a lot of what you seek in an ideal mate. Not to mention, you’re afraid of being alone. Now I hear all the time that one needs to be by them selves to get to know them selves. I believe that. However, what if knowing yourself mean you don’t like being alone (different from lonely). Your mate has a few quirks that are less than desirable. How do you manage that?

How much is enough to conform to what we need in order to survive the environment we choose? Is there a line that exists where enough is enough? How do we incorporate OUR rules so that our needs are met? I find that we need some calibration tool to manage the ebb & flow of our feelings so that we do not burn out sooner than later. But at the same time, there is a need to be cautious because we are judged by the standards of other rather than ourselves.

My thought is that you rule by a committee of one; you. I say that because anything less than what you need is simply a waste. Now, realistic expectations are required but we must find a way to be fortified in a particular environment. I don’t know the answer to this one, but I do know we need to understand the rule of engagement before we accept or reject any environment. It is up to the home team to share the rules (expectations). It is up to embrace or deny.

All these rules can get confusing when we want what’s different than what is available…